Quran Surath Hujrath (16) "O believers, avoid suspicion as it is a sin."
Husband and wife should lead the life of love and trust. There should be no room for suspion or doubt between you both. Otherwise there will be cracks in the relationship. Life of both will be miserable. Somehow, at all cost save the marriage. Both of you should not enter bed room with any issues pending in your mind. Go to bed with clean mind with love-love-love. Any suspicious will brake the bonds of love. Shaitan is waiting to attack with his army to separate you. When marriage brakes, two families will loose their peace of mind. So better to forget and forgive each other and move forward your life. I hereby give an example of a husband and wife. One day the husband came late in the night. The wife was waiting for him. Shaitan found an opportunity to attack. The wife got ideas about the late coming of the husband. She imagined he is having an affair with another woman. After some time she went to bed. Husband came late and rang the door bell. She did not open for long time. At last she opened and went to bed. The husband demanded his dinner. She asked "Why – did she not feed you where you went to meet her and spent time." The husband was furious with this answer. Next morning, he went to his office without talking to his wife. After that ,the wife went away to her parents home. Saitan took over rest of the story. What a fall without asking reason for coming late, the wife attacked him with such suspicious ideas.
Even if the husband had an affair, it would only be short lived. He may be trying to taste variety. The wife should ignore it. She should shower more love and sex and exhaust his longing for variety and save the marriage at all cost. Otherwise if the wife takes action against him, the marriage will brake. If the marriage brakes, it is always, the girl will be the looser. The boy will find another girl for him. the girl will remain at home, exceptions are very rare.
Women should know that if they show bad temper by nagging and quarrelling in the house, the husband will not like to come home in the evening after work. He may spend his time with friends or in club and eat outside and come late only to sleep. It is a dangerous situation. The couple should sort out problem among themselves. The man should go to work with cool mind. If the wife gives him good gestures and good company at home, he will come home straight from the office. Still one or two calls to her from his office. Women during their monthly periods, may be in bad moods and irritable because of hormonal activity. Men should understand this factor and cooperate with her sympathetically.
Parents of both the boy and girl, should not interfere in the privacy of them. They should support their wards to build up their relations in marriage. They should not take sides if there are any small fights between the boy and girl. The problem may be exaggerated. Usually the girl goes to her parents house and narrates her problems only to get sympathy and attention from the parents. Her parents should not react immediate to her story. Later on, they may regret for it. The parents should give sympathetic ear to her and give her good advice. Sometimes, the girl's mother may be enquiring about the progress of the marriage relationship. Why is he not taking you out for shopping. How is your mother-in-law with you. Why are you not yet pregnant. One mother took her daughter to gynecologist to find why she is not getting pregnant. The doctor said the girl is still virgin. There was a big drama. It is sheer interference in the affairs of the couple. The daughter has to follow the life style of the husband's family. The mother of the girl cannot dictate terms or remote control her daughter. When the girl's husband comes to know of this, he notices, whenever the girl goes to her parents and returns, she starts a new problem in their relationship. The husband may be fed up of the in-laws.
On the other side, the boy's mother will be watching the new daughter in-law's behaviour. She may feel jealous of her. Before marriage her son used to come home and sit with mother and talk to her affectionately. Now, since the new girl came he goes straight to the bedroom with a packet in his hand. The parents of the boy may may be craving for love. So, the couple should not ignore them. To save the situation, the girl should give company to the parents whenever the husband goes away to work. The son also should spend more time with the parents and give more attention and love to them and get their blessings. For a man, after Allah, and prophet, it is the parents he has to regard and love and obey. The greatest asset of the man is his parents. They are the magazine storehouse of blessings. I have observed that, those sons who loved and respected their parents, have prosperity and lead happy life. Peace will prevail in the family.