Combination Of Two Opposites
Allah is the creator of man and women. But their characters, physical capabilities are opposite. Man is strong, women is weaker. Man is tough, women is delicate. Man is farsighted, because he goes around and has a better knowledge of matters, women are shortsighted in making decisions. Man is aggressive, women is passive, patient soft spoken. Man is assertive, women is passive. Women are great shock absorbers. You will find, when there is a fight during road accidents, it is the women behind the men, who pull back their men. They don't allow men to prolong the fight. This combination of opposite characters are the factors that compliment the peaceful and purposeful married life of man and women. When man is in rage in a given situation, the women cools him down by giving him the other side of the situation.
During the times of Prophet Mohammed (S.A.10), he was going from Madina to Mecca along with his Sahabah to perform umrah. On the way, the Khuraish of Mecca stopped them near the place 'Hudaibiah'. They asked him to return back and come next year, so that they will vacate Mecca. They can perform umrah peacefully. After negotiation it was agreed and treaty of Hudaibiah was formed. Prophet asked his Sahabah to sacrifice their animals there only and shave and remove Ehram. He repeated this instructions three times. Nobody moved, rejected, prophet entered his tent. One of his wives had accompanied him in this journey. She asked him what was the matter. He said, inspite of repeating three times the Sahabah had not obeyed him. she coolly replied, "Why worry about them, you go and perform your sacrifice and remove the Ehram". Prophet went out and performed the sacrifice and removed Ehram. Thereafter, one by one, all the Sahabah followed him and the problem was solved peacefully. In many tense situations, women solve the problem with a cool solution. Hence it is this cool and hot combination of personalities, that solve most of the problems of life. It is required that men should not dampen the thinking capacity of women by bullying them. You will be loosing an important consultant in your life (which is free). In every matter in your life, you have to consult your group of friends or the experts and act. Leave the result to Allah.
Quran says – Aal Imran (159) But for the mercy of Allah. If you have been hard hearted to them, they would have forsaken you. Forgive them, consult them in your affairs, when your arrive to some point of agreement, trust in Allah. Allah loves those people who trust him".
Allah the creator of male and female person. He knows what is best for each of them. He laid down the rules for them to follow in their lives. They compliment each other in their lives. Male is sturdy, strong is made the provider, protector, supporter of the family and the woman. Women are delicate, soft compassionate. They are made the Manager of the family. Woman's role as a wife and mother, Nobody on earth can replace her. Not even grand parents or a Nurse for a child. But in the name of women's lib, the modern society or the western society is dragging her outside the house. There by there are disasters in their society. Families are broken. Children are living orphans. Elders are sent to old age homes. This is what they have achieved.
The most important thing in the life of a woman is her children. She will be ready to sacribe her life for them. Late President Kennedy of American, his wife Jakelin Kennedy never accompanied the president in his official tours, when the pressmen asked her, if she is not interested in the national activities. She replied she is most interested in national activity. She is preparing another Kennedy for America from home, what a reply!